Thursday, June 4, 2015

How to Be Very Wrong When You're Right

You may have read the title and thought this is an article about checking all the facts before telling someone they're wrong. There is a great deal to be said about carefully exploring the whole story with true humility before becoming convinced that we're right; Truth is important, our pride is easily hurt, and we're not right nearly as often as we think we are. But this article is not primarily about that; It's about the step after that.

Let's assume a situation in which we're objectively, factually, legally, right. Feels great! Now we can make sure everyone knows it! Well, this article is about how to be right when we face someone that's wrong, whether in a disagreement or offense. What I mean is that it's easy to be factually right but then act in a way that makes us even more guilty than the person who is wrong.